Green Flags to Look for in a Partner
It all begins with an idea.
When it comes to dating, we tend to focus on red flags—signs that a partner is not a healthy choice for us. While it’s important to watch out for these warning signs, it’s just as crucial to be on the lookout for a partner’s green flags—positive behaviors that indicate that someone is respectful, compassionate, and emotionally mature. Below, we give you 10 green flags to watch for!
1. They communicate openly and honestly.
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: healthy communication is key for all relationships, romantic or otherwise. It’s a green flag when someone is transparent about their feelings, concerns, boundaries, and major plans—when you’re not left guessing or trying to fill in the blanks.
2. They’re consistent and reliable.
Trust is built through consistent actions over time. When someone follows through on their promises and behaves similarly across different situations, it’s always a good sign, showing trustworthiness and reliability.
3. They respect your boundaries.
A partner who listens to and honors your boundaries—physical, emotional, or otherwise—indicates respect and emotional maturity, which are necessary for a healthy relationship.
4. They know how to take accountability for their actions.
When someone can admit when they made a mistake, apologize, and take tangible steps to improve, it shows they can take accountability for their actions and show care for you and your perspective.
5. They practice healthy conflict resolution.
Conflict is not only inevitable but a healthy part of all relationships. In conflict, a partner who shows empathy for your perspective and calmly addresses issues demonstrates healthy conflict resolution skills—a major green flag.
6. They respect your individuality and autonomy.
A healthy partner will recognize that you are your own person with your own perspective and preferences. They won’t try to change you or keep you from having a life outside your relationship with them.
7. They have their own life.
Similarly, a healthy partner has their own rich life and nurtures their own interests outside the relationship. They maintain a solid sense of who they are and what they like.
8. They want to get to know you—and show that intentionally.
Someone who puts in the effort to know you—your likes and dislikes, past and present, future plans, and more—shows care for you and your individuality.
9. You feel safe and at ease with them.
Feeling safe and comfortable with your partner is the backbone of a strong, healthy bond. If you feel emotionally and physically safe with a partner, even during hard moments, it’s a positive sign.
10. They encourage your growth.
A healthy, supportive partner commits to their own growth while simultaneously encouraging yours. They recognize your potential while celebrating who you are now.
What’s a green flag you look for in a partner? We’d love to hear in the comments!